Its interesting how we stay stuck where we are in our lives with this thing called fear that just holds us back! I have been thinking on that monster called fear and what it actually is and why we have developed or intrenched it amongst our lives so we just sit with satisfaction or even mediocracy!
What is fear? Well I guess when you think of animals it may be the thing that keeps them alive. The fear that fills them when a predator comes and they have the fight or flight response. I mean the reality is as humans I’m not even sure we have any predators as such!
Now we can look at fear as the one thing that’s going to save our lives, you know peering over a cliff most people won’t jump as that fear tells us we will fall to our death. On the other hand, the thrill seekers out there thrive on this. So, I ponder what allows one person to survive on fear as a positive and another stop living totally?
Our world has changed so much over time that the original fight or flight response is not really needed as when we were in the nomadic ages. For those of us that want to achieve great things whether that be in our career, our purpose, our bodies, or even our families why do we settle for less than we can achieve?
An interesting thing to think about fear is the feeling it gives us. For most, never all, we get that funny feeling in our stomach. It may be that sense of dread like something is going to happen. It may come and go or be there all the time. However it feels, we attach a negative connotation to it that it is bad. If you think about excitement we really do experience that same feeling in our stomach area that we sometimes call butterflies. So why is one bad and the other good when they are the same feeling?
Through my work as a high school teacher and life coach something I have found that really stands out to me is that it depends on the reactions people have had growing up around failure. Some children we encouraged to get up and keep going where as others were shouted out and called names. You can see how a prolonged time of being told that failure was bad would lead to this fear of failure. How is fear and failure related?
Most people stay where it is comfortable as it is safe there. When we step into a new part of our life we have no idea what the outcome is going to be. The fear of failure is the biggest thing that will paralyze someone from making change. Look at a five year old who wants something really bad, they will do so many different things to get what they want. When one thing doesn’t work they do another, then another, and another until they win.
At some point in our lives failing becomes something bad instead of good. If you look at any successful person each time they ‘failed’ they knew what not to do any continued until they succeeded! It’s all just a matter of perception!
So, when you are next confronted with fear think of the following things;
~ what is the worst that can happen? Do it anyway!
~ the feeling of fear is actually excitement!
~ failure is only ever a lesson!
~ on the other side of failure is greatness!
Please don’t think that as I sit here and write this for you I have never stepped through fear. In fact, I’ve done it far more than I probably should have! I have moved through many times that in the moment I didn’t even know were the right decisions however at the end I can tell you they were! When I left teaching after spending nine years of my life getting my education degree and then teaching people thought I was mad to leave that and be a tarot reader! Now here I am nearly two years later with a metaphysical center where I am a life coach, spiritual reader, teacher, and healer increasing my online presence with membership sites, group coaching, and online courses!
It is all of the fear that I have broken through that has helped me create a Life Coaching Program like no others! Want to find out more? Check out how my Life Coaching Program can guide you on your journey.